In English, we only have three words to label grief: widow, orphan and bereaved. When a loved one has died, being able to use one of these words is both a blessing and a curse.
Society tells us widows shouldn't make major life decisions in the first 12 months after their husband dies. Why? Forget the advice, do what you think is right.
Death comes to us all, eventually. People rarely make plans for it but if you put aside some time it'll be worth the effort when you need it.